If you and your ex have broken up and you are frantically trying to think of some way to reverse the situation then you need to stop for a second and make sure are being honest with yourself.
Take a bit of time to think about why you want your ex back so badly, and be honest. For too many people the desire for reunion is not really about love, it’s about jealousy.
These people do not want to get back with an ex because they think it’s the right thing for both of them, but only because they can’t stand to see him or her with someone else.
The human mind can have difficulty separating love from jealousy. Try your best to work it out though because if it is just jealousy that makes you want to get your ex back you are probably doomed to failure and putting yourself through a lot of misery for no good reason.
When you are as sure as you can be that your reasons for wanting your ex back are not motivated mainly by jealousy then you have a some more honest thinking to do.
Now is the time to think clearly and honestly about why the relationship with your ex has come to an end.
And you have to be ready, even eager, to take your share of the responsibility for the break up.
Because in fact you have more chance of rebuilding your relationship with your ex if the responsibility for the break up rests mainly on your shoulders.
How can that be you say?
You can’t change your ex. So if you bear no responsibility for the ending of your relationship then there is nothing you can change to get your ex back.
But if you are mostly at fault then you can make corrections that your ex can see and that will hopefully lead to reunion.
So take heart and be brave. Look at yourself and your relationship with your ex in hard, honest light and you will be giving yourself the best possible chance of getting your ex back.
